Not having a lunch for one day could be difficult for many children. Who should decide if parents are doing too much for their school age children?
As parents raising young children we want what is best for them, unknowingly many parents choose the path of less resistance.
Parents as well as their children need their independents. A parent my be holding back their child because of fear they may fail or maybe the parent has other emotional reasons.
The Catholic High Schools for Boys in Little Rock, Arkansas, deserves a raucous round of applause, because its educators clearly known the meaning of personal responsibility and achievement.
What makes me believe this? Namely, the sign educators at the school posted for parents attempting to drop off any items that their son may have forgotten to take with him that morning.
“If you are dropping off your son’s forgotten lunch, books, homework, equipment, etc., please TURN AROUND and exit the building,” the sign read. “Your son will learn to problem-solve in your absence.”
“This is all about teaching young men (high schoolers are not children) to become responsible adult men and spouses and fathers through allowing ‘soft failures,’” one parent, Margaret Barsocchi Willis, wrote.
We all make mistakes, but unless we learn from them, the likelihood of us repeating them remains pretty high.
Likewise, young boys (and girls, I might add) must learn the hard way that mistakes like forgetting lunch or homework at home lead to tangible consequences.
But by experiencing these sometimes painful consequences, the young men at the Catholic High Schools for Boys will be that much more inspired to ensure that they never make the same mistake again.
Moreover, forgetting lunch or homework at home is a relatively minor mistake with hardly troubling repercussions.
Forgetting to turn off the stove or pick up a son or daughter from school, on the other hand, is much more costly — which is why training young boys early to avoid mistakes by thinking ahead is worthy of praise.
Let’s face it, responsibility and independence go hand in hand. Failure should be a tool to instill determination, it’s the building blocks to strength and success.
Go with out lunch today and maybe you’ll remember tomorrow!